Posted on 28 February 2012 by Tea Server
Posted on 16 February 2012 by Tea Server
Posted on 04 February 2012 by Tea Server
It is 12th rabi ul awal 1433 date of Islamic calendar. On 12th rabi ul awal 570, the Prophet Muhammad Mustafa peace be upon him entered in the world, and the most beautiful day for the Muslim ummah rose the sun with the most beautiful face of whole mankind. However, there is a contradiction on dates on which the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him and his family) came to the world in the dawn either of twelve or seventeenth Rabi ul Awal. Digressing contradictions, I would like to talk about the gracious and merciful personality of the prophet.
Prophet Muhammad Mustafa (PBUH&HF) was (is) the son of Hadrat Abdullah ibn Hadrat Abu Mutalib A.S. and Bibi Aamna A.S. To the bravery of his grandfather and father, you were destined to be the forefather and fathers of the most beautiful, gracious, merciful and greatest personality of the universe. On the day, I am the happiest person to celebrate once again.
The lineage of Prophet Muhammad can be traced back to Prophet Ishmael, the son of Abraham, through Adnan, a descendent twenty-one generations removed.
Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him and his family) was brought up in a village by a wet-nurse. It was then a culture to send children to the countryside, as it was healthier for them. He was brought up by Bibi Haleema. Prophet Muhammad stayed with his wet nurse until he was five or six years old and was then brought to Makka and handed over to his mother. Halima’s husband was Harith ibn Abdil ’Uzza. The couple’s children, ‘Abd Allah, Unaysa and Shayma, were the Prophet’s foster siblings. Later, when he was orphaned, he was taken care by his uncle Abu talib, who is the father of Imam Hyder Ali A.S.
He embarked on his career in trade by helping Abu Talib A.S., who was involved in trading cloth and grain. Prophet Muhammad continued this trade when his uncle became older. It is known that Prophet Muhammad traveled to various places for purposes of trade, such as to the Hubasha trade fair when he was a teenager, to Yemen once or twice, to the Mushakkar and Daba fairs in eastern Arabia, and even to Abyssinia. As a result of these journeys, Prophet Muhammad not only learned about the necessities of commercial life, but also became acquainted with the people living in certain regions of Arabia, and learned about their languages, dialects, religions, and political and social conditions.
For his personality traits of honesty and truthfulness, he was widely known as Ameen and Sideeq (Trustworthy and Truthful respectively). He met a woman while dealing the business activities, named Bibi Khadeeja A.S. Because of her excellent manners and discipline, she was also called Bibi Tahira A.S. By the most respected personality of the great Prophet, she sent a message if he agreed to marry her. There is a contradiction if she was a widow or not, but I refuse to accept that she was a widow. She was also known as the princess of the Makkah (mecca).
According to many narrations, at the age of 40 the Hadrat Gabriel A.S. (the one of four angels) came down to Prophet Muhammad Peace be upon him in the cave, and revealed him that he was the last Prophet of the religion Islam. The revelation ayats are:
Arabic Text: بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Translation: In the name of Allah, the Most Beneficent, the Most Merciful.
Arabic Text: اقْرَأْ بِاسْمِ رَبِّكَ الَّذِي خَلَقَ
Translation: Read: In the name of the Lord Who created. Quran: 96:1
Arabic Text: خَلَقَ الْإِنسَانَ مِنْ عَلَقٍ
Translation: Created man from a clot of blood. Quran: 96:2
Arabic Text: اقْرَأْ وَرَبُّكَ الْأَكْرَمُ
Translation: Read: And your Lord is the Most generous, Quran: 96:3
Arabic Text: الَّذِي عَلَّمَ بِالْقَلَمِ
Translation: Who taught man the use of the pen, Quran: 96:4
Arabic Text: عَلَّمَ الْإِنسَانَ مَا لَمْ يَعْلَمْ
Translation: and taught man that which he did not know. Quran: 96:5
These ayats are also known as the first revealed ayahs of the Holy Quran, which is the books of Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him and his family.
Afterwards, the great Prophet (peace be upon him and his family) was in a state of confusion if it was a dream or not, and then the first person to know about the revelation was his first wife, bibi Khadija A.S. She, then, went to the historian or hakeem of the time, who held and read the history books. He, narrating by prophecies, let her know that her Husband was destined to be a Prophet, the Last Prophet of Religion Islam.From the wife he had three children, one of them was Bibi Fatima A.S., the wife of Imam Hyder Ali A.S., and the mother of Imam Hassan A.S. and Imam Hussain A.S.
He remained silent for a few time, but after not much time he started preaching the straight forward way to the right guidance, to the right life and to the right path. After facing violence from the Makkah tribes, he resorted to patience and lived in cave nearby a village. It was the time when hijri calender existed, and the Ukhawat or Brotherhood of Madina (then Yathrib/Yasrib) inspired following generations.
Prophet Muhammad fought many wars in his life for the sake of humanity, the principles and regulations. He strove hard to bring peace to his region, and he was successful in retaining peaceful accord, called Meesaq e Madina, which was a written accord. The wars were fought for preserving independence at the time. Without wars, no one survived for long – either were conquered or defeated by aggression of war.
The Prophet Muhammad Peace be upon him and his family had 11 wives, the one Bibi Khadija A.S. is known as the four perfect women who had ever lived. The other three are Bibi Aasiya, the wife of Firaun, Bibi Maryam, the mother of Prophet Isa(a.s.), and Bibi Fatima Zahra(s.a.), the daughter of the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him and his family. According to Shit’te narrations, Prophet had only one daughter, named Bibi Fatima A.S.
In 632, at the end of the tenth year after the migration to Medina, Muhammad carried through his first truly Islamic pilgrimage, thereby teaching his followers the rites of the annual Great Pilgrimage (Hajj). After completing the pilgrimage, Muhammad delivered a famous speech known as The Farewell Sermon, at Mount Arafat east of Mecca. In this sermon, Muhammad advised his followers not to follow certain pre-Islamic customs. He declared that an Arab has no superiority over a non-Arab nor a non-Arab has any superiority over an Arab; also a white has no superiority over black nor a black has any superiority over white except by piety and good action. He abolished all old blood feuds and disputes based on the former tribal system and asked for all old pledges to be returned as implications of the creation of the new Islamic community.
In the end, the rumors about the great personality are only asserted by the chickpeas. Those chickpeas possess two different personalities, first one is what he shows, the other one is in heart. The lack of original text about his life is the reason of all rumor phenomena in the world. No one has, even generally, right to talk against any one abusively, and this is the great Prophet (peace be upon him and his family).
Eid Milad un Nabi Mubarak, everyone!
Posted on 01 February 2012 by Tea Server
One year after Egypt’s revolution, enthusiasm and prospects for science are high — but still need translation into a fully functioning system.
It is difficult to believe, given the optimism and vitality of current debates about science in Egypt, that less than two years ago a UNESCO report described science in the Arab world as being in a “vegetative state”. 
This week Egypt celebrates the first anniversary of the momentous events in Tahrir Square, and elsewhere, that brought down the autocratic regime of President Hosni Mubarak. These events showed both the promises and the challenges in achieving economic prosperity and social development.
The promises lie in the fervour for democratic control that continues to sweep the country, combined with growing public enthusiasm for science. They point to a widely-held desire to modernise Egypt’s social and economic institutions in ways that directly address the needs of its people.
But turning fervour into an achievable political programme — one that ensures the achievements of last year’s revolution are permanent — remains a major challenge. This is as true for the institutional reforms needed to genuinely transform the country’s science infrastructure, as it is of the broader changes demanded of the newly-elected Egyptian Parliament.
Popular and government support
Certainly there is no lack of public support for reform, on either front. Indeed, a marked increase in public enthusiasm for science over the past year has been a significant, if little remarked, element of the country’s cultural transformation.
Publicity for the reasons behind government prioritisation of science, as well as the launch of huge science-related projects such as the Zewail City of Science and Technology, has launched an unprecedented public discussion on the need to develop science and technology in Egypt. Lively debates on this topic have taken place on Facebook.
Attendance at public events, such as lectures run by organisations such as the Science Age Society , has been high. And part of the discussion has been around how individuals can support scientific development, for example by becoming scientists and engineers. Frustration at a lack of employment opportunities for even qualified graduates was a major factor behind the revolution itself.
The media reflects this increased recognition for scientific research. Many newspapers, both new and old, now devote a special section to science — something that few would have considered before the revolution.
Government support for scientific research and the technological innovation sector has been impressive over the past year. An increase of about 35 per cent for the research budget has already been approved. And promises of further investment look set to end the chronic underfunding of science in Egypt.
Scientists and academics are now enjoying higher salaries and much more freedom than they had previously. They are more optimistic about the prospects of developing a system of scientific research that will meet both their, and the country’s, needs.
Meritocracy and strategy
A separate question is how far bringing down a corrupt, authoritarian regime has provided the conditions for a new meritocracy.
Progress in scientific and socioeconomic development will depend on individuals being recognised for their talents and contribution, rather than their political or family connections. As Princess Sumaya bint El Hassan of Jordan, one of the most articulate commentators on the challenges facing Arab science, notes in an interview with SciDev.Net, meritocracy is essential since it allows good ideas to prevail regardless of their origin.
Achieving such a transformation in the country’s scientific culture is one of the major challenges that lie ahead.
A research strategy must be agreed to ensure the promised budget increases are used appropriately. One year after the revolution, and despite all the upbeat talk, such a strategy has yet to be announced.
And new ways of supporting scientific research, such as by creating a Supreme Council of Research Centres, are still in the early stages, and will need a lot of time, effort and commitment.
No room for complacency
Until a fully functioning scientific system emerges, Egypt’s best and brightest minds will continue to be attracted by higher rewards and better working conditions elsewhere, not only in Western countries such as the United States and Europe, but also elsewhere in the Arab world.
Despite the improved climate for research, 400 researchers still left Egypt’s National Research Centre in 2011 to work in countries such as Qatar and Saudi Arabia — talent that Egypt can ill afford to lose.
And innovation in the private sector remains low, reflecting continued uncertainty over where the country’s economy is heading. There is, therefore, no cause for complacency.
One year after the revolution, the optimistic and supportive spirit that surrounds science in Egypt still needs to be translated into the concrete activities required for real development. A law on science and technology, due to be considered by the Egyptian Parliament later this year, is one tangible action that could set the country on the right path.
It would be a tragedy if this opportunity is missed, and the country’s science reverts to previous habits of relative inertia and low productivity.
Regional Coordinator, Middle East and North Africa, SciDev.Net
Posted on 26 January 2012 by Tea Server
Members of royal families around the world often express support for science, but Princess Sumaya bint El Hassan of Jordan stands out for taking a particularly close and active interest.
She is a founder and president of the El Hassan Science City, president of Jordan’s Royal Scientific Society and chair of the board of trustees of the Princess Sumaya University for Technology. She has also recently helped set up a science and technology collaboration centre for the Middle East, in Jordan.
This month is the anniversary of two Arab uprisings, in Egypt and Tunisia. We asked Princess Sumaya about the impact the Arab Spring has had on science in the region, her views on science diplomacy, and her hopes and fears for science, education and innovation.
A large part of it is people starting to think in terms of meritocracy. A huge potential of talent has been unleashed — talent that was previously held back by corruption and by cronyism, and by a disregard for meritocratic progress.
This is when we can start talking about the Arab Spring becoming the Arab Summer — when we see people assessed on, and acknowledged for what they are able to contribute. You cannot have successful scientific cooperation without meritocracy.
The great new freedom has started to entice a lot of the Arab diaspora — we have lost so many of our talented people in the past.
Is there a lesson for other Arab countries that have not experienced protests?
I think so and that’s not just the result of the Arab Spring. Slowly people have started to realise that the way forward is investment in human resources, not in cement or other commodities. And, while some of our neighbouring countries have put huge amounts into science cities and so on, ultimately it’s the working partnerships that we develop between different scientists that will make the big difference. In Jordan, our great resource is human capital and that is what we are investing in.
When we think about the Arabic and Islamic world, the contribution we have made to science and technology is a very important part of our heritage, and now is the time for us to continue from where we left off.
So what are the main obstacles to science in the Arab world?
I think it’s re-establishing that feeling of ownership over innovation for community development. At the same time a lot of Arabs are feeling the weight of Western scientific hegemony. It’s not an excuse for anger or lethargy, but a call to action for a new generation with new ambition. In the Middle East we have focused a lot on imitation, and only in the last few years on innovation once again. Now we really need to start educating people on intellectual property rights and technology commercialisation.
What can be learnt from experiences in the West?
We can learn a lot of lessons from the West. One of the analogies I use is that when you look at a fragmented Europe after the Second World War you wouldn’t have expected some of the nations, such as France and Germany, to speak to each other again, but it was elements of science that brought Europe together and led to the second industrial revolution.
And I believe that, in the Arab world, if we started talking together — with the financial resources in some of our rich Gulf countries that are available as well as the human resources in countries such as mine, or Egypt, or Lebanon and Syria — that’s where we can really build a second scientific Golden Age.
What, if anything, is the role for science diplomacy?
Science always flourishes when talent is given freedom and support to apply itself, but I think mentorship programmes are the best approach for success and sustainability. If you can collaborate as people, the money will eventually come in. We have to make sure that science is directed at solving the challenges that we face in the region and that’s why we need to talk to each other and cooperate again.
At the El Hassan Science City, we are now working closely with Arab-American professors from the University of California, Los Angeles, who are working as mentors for our researchers in Jordan. The Science City in itself is a way of attracting back the lost Arab diaspora, and with the wonders of modern communications we are also able to develop our capacity without people actually being here.
The agreement that the Science City has with the SESAME project [Synchrotron-light for Experimental Science and Applications in the Middle East — funded by several Middle East countries, and based in Jordan] brings a huge advantage for collaboration with different nations. Some might not sit together around the political table, but scientifically we can overcome that political hurdle.
How do we make sure everyone benefits from science diplomacy?
In Jordan we recently signed an agreement for the development of the first UN ESCWA [Economic and Social Commission for Western Asia] technology centre for research and scientific collaboration. It’s the first time ESCWA has opened an office outside its headquarters and this centre involves 14 Arab countries. The idea is to increase not only Arabic content on the Internet but also to provide an opportunity for research and alliances.
The more we as a region can start addressing combined strategies and identifying national priorities — but where everyone gets a slice of the pie — the better.
Science culture must become an intrinsic part of our development from school age up.
What is the future for education and innovation in the region?
We are very focused on teaching and learning by rote and not being able to question. I think the fact that we have a generation that now wants to stand up and ask questions, and is being given the freedom to do so, is probably the first symbolic step forwards.
And then, of course, a more equitable division of resources is the right way to go about things. That starts with education and is particularly important with tertiary education. We must ensure that we build a quality university system that is affordable to the less well off. We have missed so much potential because education has not been equitable in our region.
I don’t have a PhD. Life experience can teach you a lot and while I don’t undermine the importance of a PhD, it’s also very important to acknowledge the role of entrepreneurial thinking. Enabling the right environments is very important.
When you look at innovation ecosystems you realise that it is young people who need to have an environment in which to become creative and commercialise technologies.
So a combination [of the traditional and the entrepreneurial] is the formula for success that we need.
And what is the position of women in science?
There’s a lot of encouragement given to women in science in my country. More than half of our undergraduate science students are women.
At my university we have just appointed the first woman dean for engineering, the first one in Jordan. Because women still traditionally have a dual role — they are also a mother and a wife — if you educate a woman, you educate a family.
It is very important that this is supported. There are a lot of women in the Arab world in leadership positions who are now able to give support to other women.
It is very rare now that you don’t see girls being educated in the Arab world — it’s one of the success stories of the MDGs [Millennium Development Goals]. With the advancement of social media you can’t keep women in the dark anymore.
Posted on 11 January 2012 by Tea Server
A complete novel by Maham Shahbaz. The story of a girl who has to fight with fate and her loved ones for her loved ones…
Posted on 31 December 2011 by Tea Server
2011 has been a year filled with change, reform, progress and challenges across the Middle East and North Africa, Morocco included. As we anticipate what 2012 holds for the region, here’s a recap of key moments in 2011 for Morocco:
February 20 – Thousands demonstrated across Morocco in solidarity with protesters in Egypt and Tunisia, as well as to call for an acceleration of reforms in Morocco. The demonstrations were called for by the Freedom and Democracy Now movement, which used Facebook and other social media to mobilize followers. This date became the name of the protest movement that later challenged the democratic reform process. The group was handicapped by inconsistent messaging, internal disputes and, in the end, a refusal to participate in consultations for the proposed constitutional reforms.
March 9 – King Mohammed VI addresses the nation and calls for unprecedented reforms to the Constitution. He assembles a consultative constitutional commission, made up of academics, policymakers, civil society and political party leaders, trade unions and youth and charges the group with drafting the reformed Constitution.
March 19 – Morocco, represented by Foreign Minister Taieb Fassi Fihri and Prime Minister Abbas El Fassi, participated in the high-level International Conference in support of the new Libya, co-chaired by French President Nicolas Sarkozy and British Prime Minister David Cameron. Morocco pledged to “support the Libyan brotherly people at the multilateral level, notably within the UN, so that Libya can regain its stature among nations through its legitimate representatives from the National Transitional Council (NTC).”
March 23 – Morocco’s Foreign Minister, Taieb Fassi Fihri, visited the US to meet with Secretary of State Hillary Rodham Clinton. (Minister Fassi Fihri was the first Arab foreign minister to visit the US since the beginning of the Arab Spring.) During the visit, Minister Fassi Fihri and his US counterpart discussed strengthening bilateral relations through a strategic partnership, reiterated the US and Moroccan commitment to resolving the Western Sahara conflict through autonomy for the disputed territory under Moroccan sovereignty and pledged to work together to promote stability in the region, particularly as conditions worsened in Libya.
April 28 – A young Moroccan man, dressed as a “Western Hippie,” walked into Cafe Argana, very popular among tourists and Moroccans, in Marrakesh’s Jamaa el Fna square (which is a UNESCO World Heritage site), left a suitcase filled with explosives and remote detonated the device. Seventeen people, Moroccans and European tourists, were killed and injured more than 20 others. Moroccan authorities claim that those responsible for the bombing were linked with al-Qaeda in the Islamic Maghreb (AQIM), though AQIM denied responsibility. In late October, the alleged mastermind of the attacks, Adel al-Othmani, was convicted and sentenced to death and his co-conspirators received sentences ranging from two years to life.
June 17 – In a speech to the nation, King Mohammed VI announces historic reforms to the Constitution presented to him by the consultative commission. Among the reforms: the role of Prime Minister is greatly enhanced and the King must appoint the Prime Minister from the party which wins the most seats in the elections, stronger mechanisms for the promotion and protection of women’s equality, human rights, recognition of Amazigh (Berber) as an official language, the King must make key appointments in consultation with the Prime Minister and the Cabinet and the judiciary is restructured to increase independence and transparency.
July 1 – The proposed reforms are put to a national referendum. Voter turnout is 73% and 98% vote in favor of the reforms.
September 4 – Princess Lalla Aicha, sister of the late King Hassan II and aunt of King Mohammed VI, died at the age of 81 in Rabat. Lalla Aicha was the first female Arab Ambassador (United Kingdom, 1965-69) and was very active throughout her life as a women’s rights activist and vocal advocate for the Red Crescent.
October 21 – Morocco is elected to a two year term as a non-permanent member of the UN Security Council for 2012-13.
October 22 – Three European aid workers were kidnapped by members of AQIM from within the Polisario-controlled refugee camps in Tindouf, Algeria. The Polisario Front, whose members reportedly assisted the kidnappers, currently challenges Morocco’s sovereignty over the disputed Western Sahara.
November 25 – Morocco holds first parliamentary elections since the adoption of broad constitutional reforms approved by referendum in July. The elections were also the first parliamentary elections in the region since the Arab Spring began. (Egypt’s parliamentary elections began the following Monday and the Tunisian elections which preceded Morocco’s were to choose a constituent assembly to write the country’s new constitution.) Voter turnout was 45%, up from 37% for the 2007 national Parliamentary elections. The winning party in the elections were the moderate Islamist party, the Party of Justice and Development (PJD), which won 107 of the 395 seats in the Lower House of Parliament. Shy of a majority, the PJD was required to form a governing coalition with other major parties.
November 29 – King Mohammed VI appoints Abdelilah Benkirane, leader of the Islamist Party of Justice and Development as Prime Minister of the newly elected parliament.
December 2 – “Morocco Mall” in Casablanca, the largest shopping mall in Africa, opens its doors. The opening of the $260 million project brought drew Moroccan royalty, Princess Lalla Meryem (the sister of King Mohammed VI) and American pop culture royalty, Jennifer Lopez.
December 23 – President Obama signs the 2012 Consolidated Appropriations Act (Omnibus) for which Congress’ report language, for the first time, authorizes US assistance monies to be used in all regions of Morocco, included the Moroccan-administered Western Sahara. Congress also called on the State Department to make resolving the Western Sahara conflict a “ priority.”
Posted on 27 December 2011 by Tea Server
I have a confession to make. I’ve had lots of absurd crushes and one of them was Aladdin and I was jealous sour of Jasmine. I mean, who could miss that dashing smile Aladdin had? Or the way he would brush his fingers through his hair when he wanted to act smart. The boy who looked cute in tatters became the handsomest guy on screen when Genie transformed him into Prince Ali Ababwa.
I just felt like sharing this photo with you lovely girls tonight. Don’t we all have so many childhood memories associated with Disney classics? Aladdin still manages to be on the top! They are like a treasure trove of lessons and ideals for life Stand up for yourself; Find your place in the sun; The good always wins over the bad; You’re beautiful just about as much you are at your heart; Beauty is skin deep, ugliness isn’t; THERE IS MAGIC, only if you believe; HOLD ON TO FAITH; A happily-ever-after; so much more! Before you go, princess, when did you last let your heart decide? Think about it. Cheers!
P.S. I’m coming back to writing fiction very soon. Down with flu. Yukh.
Did you like this post? Get The Perfect Line updates via Facebook or Twitter, better yet, subscribe to my posts via Feeds. It’s easy, and free!
Comments are presents waiting to be unwrapped. I love opening all of them! Don’t forget to hit the Share button when you comment!
Posted on 18 December 2011 by Tea Server
(image credit: veraquest.info)
Note: This article is about my younger daughter Nawaal, published today in the print version of Review Magazine in Dawn Images in Pakistan. Ironically, I had written one about the older one in the same magazine when she was much younger titled “The queen of hearts.”
So here is ‘The Princess and I” http://www.dawn.com/2011/12/18/the-princess-and-i.html
And here is “The Queen of hearts” http://archives.dawn.com/weekly//review/archive/080207/review5.htm
(Unfortunately the Queen of hearts article won’t open so I’ll paste the text from my personal records after the Princess article).
This is going to be a long post. Hope you’ll bear with me and enjoy it.
And since a wordpress.com blog is free and should probably outlive me, my girls (Manaal and Nawaal), if you’re reading this, know that I love you. To bits. And Nawaal, I’m just as much Umm Nawaal as I am Umm Manaal.
“But I WON”T!” she says, with all her little might, when I ask to her to don her gown. I bite back a typically sharp response and say, “Please?” Her NO is more emphatic than before. I wonder if we’ll ever make it to the fancy dress party at school, where my daughter is supposed to go as a fairy princess. The tiara she refuses to wear is flung across the floor, her pendant looks dangerously close to giving way and breaking. I debate with myself — should I tell her she must wear the gown because I say so, or should I let her have the tantrum?
A few more minutes of sulking and throwing things and my patience is wearing out. I slowly count to ten under my breath as I try to compose myself. She insists on wearing her pyjamas (the ones she wore last night) to school. I help her back into them, gulping down a few nasty words. When she’s done, she looks surprised, as though waiting for me to erupt and say something along the lines of “Now will you change into that gown or shall I…?” I smile at her, and say, “Do you really, really want to wear that?” She nods. The pink pyjamas stay and I wonder if one of my hairs just went white.
I distract her for a little bit with something and once more I try, but this time, without exasperation, and with love. “You want to wear this lovely dress, don’t you?” She nods, looking directly at her feet and if I didn’t know better, I’d say she looked embarrassed. A minute later, I find the toddler (who will soon turn three) in an off-white and pink princess gown. Now if only she’d wear that tiara and the shoes and the faux jewellery. The gown is as far as she will agree, and with her sniffling sulkily, we go unwillingly to school.
Her soft little hand is wrapped tightly around my finger and she refuses to let go. My heart melts, just as it does every morning. A warm hug envelops her and assures her — but it’s not mine. She’s off into the classroom, and the teacher tells me to hand over the offending tiara and jewellery. I walk away a little frustrated, somewhat relived and a wee bit annoyed. How wonderful the costume would have looked had she just cooperated a little. Around me in the nursery are little Spider-men, policemen, cowboys, firemen, doctors, fairies, animals and cartoon characters. The fancy dress party is in full swing with breathless mothers gushing over their superheroes, snapping photos, glowing with pride.
As I walk back to the car, I realise we forgot her schoolbag in all that frenzy. I go to drop it off and when I get to the classroom again, I peek stealthily from the door and find that she has undergone a complete transformation. A radiant little princess, tiara and all, is waving a wand at the class. She’s smiling and it’s plain for anyone to see how much fun she’s having. The princess is finally behaving like one and I can’t wipe the silly grin off my face.
And as I trudge back to the car again, half wanting to go back and hug her, I realise something. She’s always been behaving like a little princess, perhaps I want things to go only my way far too often. In her own unique way she’s teaching me to keep mum when I must, telling me about self-discipline, urging me to stop acting like I can do what I want and giving me the message that only because she is smaller in size, I do not always ‘know better’. The little girl is asking me to give her the space she needs and the respect that she deserves. For isn’t that what love is really about?
The following article was run by Review (Dawn, Pakistan) 07-02-08
RELATIONSHIPS: The queen of hearts
She is vicious, and the only thing missing in her repertoire of weapons is a pair of fangs. I wait on her hand and foot, day and night, and cook, clean and wash after her and never complain, offering her niceties instead. She is a sworn enemy of my sleep and it agitates her so much when I sleep that she begins to sob pitifully.
Tell me, is it mere coincidence, or she’s just rotten within, because whenever I want to eat, she requires my free-of-cost service, thereby all possibilities of me feeding myself vanishes? I want to curl up in bed with a steamy mug of hot chocolate and a good book on a cold night and she decides that she needs more attention, and so naturally the novel and the hot chocolate become mere notions which people like me might as well give up on.
She has decided I’m not quick enough for my young age and has vowed to make me run around on errands until I rival Maria Sharapova in speed and alacrity. What’s more, she feels I never had a lot of respect for the powder-room attendants and has made up her mind to teach me a lesson by making me clean poop all the time.
She realises I am an abysmal cook and turns down food that is less than perfect, and in an effort to show just how disgruntled she is, she disdainfully spits a mouthful of my sincere culinary endeavour right across the room, which I, of course, humbly clean up later. Even if I am feeling totally under the weather on a particular day, I can forget about a sick-leave!
And yet, I love her. Scratch that, I adore her with a zealous passion. And I wouldn’t give her up for anything. After all, my faith tells me I have paradise under my feet because of her!
I am talking of course of my little monarch who rules my heart. My girl is a year and a half old. I would barely realise all that I am giving up, or going through, if I hadn’t actually jotted it down. For there is something about her trusting and innocent smile which makes me as fresh as a daisy after a virtually sleepless night. She speaks one word, I can barely make sense of but it sounds like ‘mamma’. My heart melts into rivers of love and I enthusiastically come up with new recipes for what generally seems like the joint effort of the cow, the hen and the fertile earth. By some strange twist of fate, it always falls into the category of unidentifiable glop, at times accented with a pungent smell. However, judging by the fact that the last time she spat out her food, it didn’t go farther than the edge of her bib… Ahh… she seems to have enjoyed my latest attempt.
A part of me can’t wait to pack her off to school when she is of age, while another side desperately wants to hold on to the little girl who has been my companion everyday as I go through the motions of housework. I treat her like a major nuisance when she flits about the vacuum cleaner like she was the one who made it all possible, but I dread the day when I will actually be missing the botheration. I do need to learn to let go, I know that, but please, not just yet.
Many years ago I played her role exactly. However, I was most certainly blessed with tastier food. I was fussed over, cuddled tenderly to sleep, and when I got hurt I was hugged sympathetically in a warm loving embrace, the smell of which is still fresh in my mind… the deep contentment that dispelled each doubt, qualm and worry. Suddenly, I realise who really is the queen of hearts.
You would be relieved to learn that this editorial has finally come to an end, for there is very important phone call I need to make back home.
Mom, I miss you.
Posted on 07 December 2011 by Tea Server
If I’m honest I have to tell you I still read fairy-tales and I like them best of all.
|Belle – Walt Disney – Fairy Tale|
|Cinderella - Walt Disney – Fairy Tale|
|Esmeralda – Walt Disney – Fairy Tale|
|Little Mermaid – Walt Disney – Fairy Tale|
|Megara – Walt Disney – Fairy Tale|
|Pocahontas – Walt Disney – Fairy Tale|
|Aurora – Walt Disney – Fairy Tale|
|Jasmine – Walt Disney – Fairy Tale|
|Rapunzel - Walt Disney – Fairy Tale|
|Snow White – Walt Disney – Fairy Tale|
Posted on 05 December 2011 by Tea Server
Brazilian media innovation agency Ageisobar, has developed colorful and playful TV spots for toy designer Mattel, directed by Rodrigo Pasavento “We Create, Your Kid Imagines” For Girls “This gives me an idea for my coming weekend” – Chelsea Correia (Director at 22Tango Search) “That was beautiful … Initially I was surprised at the absence of [...]