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A disturbing news on forced conversion—>Sind girl forced to convert and marry the kidnapper

Posted on 28 February 2012 by Tea Server

This seems really pathetic. there is no room for these type of actions neither in constitution nor in Islam. forceful conversion is not allowed and directly against Quran. I think human rights organizations especially some of rich or political class hindu community member can raise the issue in high court or supreme court or  even in Sharia Court as it is a direct violation of Islamic law as well. Only conversion allowed is voluntary conversion by heart. Also I believe Islamic organizations can help in this as it is a direct insult and misuse of Islam.

The incident is of Sind. I believe there are four major crimes on which Pakistan Civil Society and Courts should look at :
1) Abduction of a minor girl
2) Forced Conversion
3) Marriage and perhaps Forced Sex (Rape)
4) Misuse of Islam and damaging Islam’s image
I hope some action will be  taken by Civil Society, Religious  and Political Parties, Media and Courts.
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PAKISTAN: Abducted and forced into a Muslim marriage(IRIN ASIA)
KARACHI, 27 February 2012 (IRIN) – Sixteen-year-old Ameena Ahmed*, now living in the town of Rahim Yar Khan in Pakistan’s Punjab Province, does not always respond when her mother-in-law calls out to her.
“Even after a year of `marriage’ I am not used to my new name. I was called Radha before,” she told IRIN on a rare occasion when she was allowed to go to the corner shop on her own to buy vegetables.
Ameena, or Radha as she still calls herself, was abducted from Karachi about 13 months ago by a group of young men who offered her ice-cream and a ride in their car. Before she knew what was happening, she was dragged into a larger van, and driven to an area she did not know.
She was then pressured into signing forms which she later found meant she was married to Ahmed Salim, 25; she was converted to a Muslim after being asked to recite some verses in front of a cleric. She was obliged to wear a veil. Seven months ago, Ameena, who has not seen her parents or three siblings since then and “misses them a lot”, moved with her new family to southern Punjab.
“The abduction and kidnapping of Hindu girls is becoming more and more common,” Amarnath Motumal, a lawyer and leader of Karachi’s Hindu community, told IRIN. “This trend has been growing over the past four or five years, and it is getting worse day by day.”
He said there were at least 15-20 forced abductions and conversions of young girls from Karachi each month, mainly from the multi-ethnic Lyari area. The fact that more and more people were moving to Karachi from the interior of Sindh Province added to the dangers, as there were now more Hindus in Karachi, he said.
“They come to search for better schooling, for work and to escape growing extremism,” said Motumal who believes Muslim religious schools are involved in the conversion business.
“Hindus are non-believers. They believe in many gods, not one, and are heretics. So they should be converted,” said Abdul Mannan, 20, a Muslim student. He said he would be willing to marry a Hindu girl, if asked to by his teachers, “because conversions brought big rewards from Allah [God]. But later I will marry a `real’ Muslim girl as my second wife,” he said.
According to local law, a Muslim man can take more than one wife, but rights activists argue that the law infringes the rights of women and needs to be altered.
Motumal says Hindu organizations are concerned only with the “forced conversion” of girls under 18. “Adult women are of course free to choose,” he said.
“Lured away”
Sunil Sushmt, 40, who lives in a village close to the city of Mirpurkhas in central Sindh Province, said his 14-year-old daughter was “lured away” by an older neighbour and, her parents believe, forcibly converted after marriage to a Muslim. “She was a child. What choice did she have?” her father asked. He said her mother still cries for her “almost daily” a year after the event.
Sushmat is also concerned about how his daughter is being treated. “We know many converts are treated like slaves, not wives,” he said.
According to official figures, Hindus based mainly in Sindh make up 2 percent of Pakistan’s total population of 165 million. “We believe this figure could be higher,” Motumal said.
According to media reports, a growing number of Hindus have been fleeing Pakistan, mainly for neighbouring India. The kidnapping of girls and other forms of persecution is a factor in this, according to those who have decided not to stay in the country any longer.
“My family has lived in Sindh for generations,” Parvati Devi, 70, told IRIN. “But now I worry for the future of my granddaughters and their children. Maybe we too should leave,” she said. “The entire family is seriously considering this.”
*not her real name

Syndicated from: United4justice’s Weblog

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Part I: Weddings and other scary things

Posted on 02 February 2012 by Tea Server

like eye goop.

Get dragged out of bed by hopeful mum (shall explain adjective later), half a sock in tow, been told the light will go at 8:00 p.m; it is 07:30, need to select clothes, then need to press clothes, fast.  Should wash face too. Should. It is too cold to wash face. Don’t. Take tissue, rub face vigorously with moisturizer to wipe dirt and tw0-day old mascara which is frighteningly stuck at all the wrong places around the eyes (the corners, the tips etc.), eyes feel wide shut, open them, try again. Been told by brother that face is fat and nothing looks good, also been told to wear girly clothes to look like girl, nonchalantly agree to looking like girl, get black shirt out, no shalwar or pajama to go with it, get black jeans out, they would have to do, shirt is long, will hide jeans, no one would know it is jeans, triumph at spark of brilliance, mentally thump back.

Face looks clean after moisturizer rub, hate make-up, hide from mum who will force make-up, wait for lights to go so she does not see the no-make face, crunch up and play hair to give messy look, love  that best about self. Don clothes before anybody sees, is relieved when light goes, apply lots and lots and lots of kajal, been told eyes are beautiful, should emphasize.

Rush, rush, rush to the wedding venue, hopeful mum (shall explain adjective later) looks sweetly murderous when she can finally see face, berates for lack of make-up and messy hair, does not see jeans, triumph once again at spark of brilliance, could be brand ambassa(dress) of such jeans- thinks inwardly- tell mum there is no make-up in bag, do not like lying, tell her that camera man is upon us and now leaving, what is point?, no-make-up-face is already on record, she shrugs, tells in so many words t0 not-fuck-off anywhere because there is a long journey to embark upon, throws us both in a throng of glittery, shiny women with painted faces, hahahhah, faces look so big can imagine someone playing ball with them, tons of make-up must make faces weigh, well, tons- giggles at self , is so funny- pastes fake smile on face, big enough to look like smile, small enough to not show teeth, do not like teeth, teeth are ugly….  fake smile is slipping, hold onto it like would a rein of a marching horse or the stump of a wriggly camel… something is in eye, twitch replaces smile… still say hello-how-are-you–you-look-so-nice–doesn’t-she-mum?–oh-you-have-a-baby-too–so-beautiful–do-come-to-our-house-sometime–no-we-are-still-living-there–hahaha-no-do-not-want-to-get-married-now–hahahah-no-want-to-study–hahaha-yes-please-do-tell-if-you-find-a-nice-guy-for-me (so I stay faaaaar away from him, say inwardly)–yes-cannot-stay-young-forever-you-are-right– yes-digital-clock-is-ticking–yes-yes-yes-yes…..

Steer self away from one to have similar conversation with another, hopeful mum (shall explain adjective later) smiles, she appreciates acquiesce- will take revenge from her later-, oh, it is time to go see the bride now, is it?

Syndicated from: …between musings

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Marriage and the flawed social premise for it – I

Posted on 28 January 2012 by Tea Server

Marriage is a fundamental element of the social life – or so it is considered. Due to the widespread legitimacy it enjoys among a majority, it is the most valid mode for the continuity of human creed; and so, very crucial too…..To me, the social philosophy upon which resides this important facet of human life is utterly flawed and contributes greatly towards its eventual failure. We shall see in the succeeding lines how this claim is substantiated. Continue reading »

Syndicated from: ‘Tis my say.

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PostMan’s Law of Marriage

Posted on 25 January 2012 by Tea Server

Marriage is a reality check.

Syndicated from: yeah.. that too…

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George Clooney Was Married ‘Once Upon A Time’

Posted on 16 December 2011 by Tea Server

Number of hits: 84 Will some lucky lady get to be Mrs. George Clooney someday? Maybe yes, maybe no, but the 50-year-old actor won’t promise anything. “I don’t talk about (marriage) because I don’t think about it,” Clooney tells Esquire. “I don’t ever question other peoples’ versions of how they live their lives of what [...]

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Marriage – for our ego and society!

Posted on 15 December 2011 by Tea Server

By Mahnoor Munaf Marriage is an important part of our society but what I do not understand is that why has it become the only and the most important part of it. I do not understand why people of Pakistan are so psyched about marriage all the time! It’s not like the only thing in … Read more

Syndicated from: Static

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This year’s change of heart

Posted on 06 December 2011 by Tea Server

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Meher Bukhari:

I defended her everywhere I could and even when I could NOT. Despite her atrocious dressing sense, pastory make up face, and yelling like Maasi Museebtay. I never thought twice while defending her that dunya walay would think what a bad taste I have. I liked her for her neutrality. But I was wrong. SO WRONG. At start of this year, in the interview with Salman Taseer, she proved what a hypocrite, pretentious fruad, two faced and blatant liar she is. I am tormented. I am embarrassed. I am vexed.

I HATE YOU MEHER BUKHARIII. I HATE YOU. THANK GOD, THANK OH MY GOD, THAT YOU ARE BUKHARI WITH U AND NOT O!

Rachel McAdams:

Whenever anyone would say how beautiful Rachel McAdams is, I ALWAYS used to mention that not only she’s very beautiful but also has the aura of intelligence and independence about her. But I was wrong. Because an intelligent person makes intelligent choices. And Rachel McAdams goes for “makes” instead. I lament getting my hands on Morning Glory and Midnigh in Paris this year. This lass, only sees the casts, makers and script of the film, and not the role that she is getting or the effort she needs to put in. I realize her great works aren’t HER great works. CREDIT goesssss to the directors and well… her pristine beauty.

Brothers and Sisters:

This one TV show I LUBED truly, madly, deeply. I was obsessed with the show. The show was almost sacred for me. BUT WHAT THE *^^&%%$$%#%R^&%*&^*&^&^%%$^&&*&*^)*&%^$$#$# SEASON FINALE. NOT A SINGLE EPISODE WORTH WATCHING. It was like putting apples and anaconda together and getting them married and showing anthropoids as their kids. At times I felt if Ekta Kapoor was trying her hands on American television and making fusion — United States of Dhotistan.

Mission-To-Get-Me-Married-Wali-Aunty (MTGMMWA):

Not that I was ever fond of her but I never knew that I was capable of hating someone more than I hate facebook. Just a few words, while my father in the hospital, from her to my mother: ABIDA ki shadi kab kara rahi ho? And my hate for her, has gone to a whole new level. They say, hate changes the person. And TADA… I am changed. Hate has turned me into a poet. Here’s my little work:

My hate for you is a blistering occean of fire,
Pushing you into its flame is my one and only desire.
May you turn soon into an ugly loser vampire,
So I can take wooden stake and stab the ^%%$$#$&^&*^*&*&^%$$@##@@#@#$#%$# OUTTA YOU.

Rose beauty parlor:

Yeah. Whatever. Used to go there for facial, waxing etc till the mid of this year. I dont go there for facial waxing etc anymore. People laugh. Also, Rose beauty parlour services have gone to ditches. So I left going there. Now I go to some other beauty parlor. HOWEVER, even the new beauty parlor services didn’t help in making me look a little above than bearable on the eyes. But anyways, I hate Rose beauty parlor now. BUS.

Sprite:

Well, almost. Have become a lil health [read: skin] conscious now. I feel sick. I feel now that I am cheating on me when I sometimes having it. However, less so. Switching to Pakola. Only one thing is keeping me from Pakola. Back in my B.A. , my group friends used to call me, Pakola type girl. What does that mean? Well THAT I leave it to your imagination!

My Internet crush:

I could write a book on him. I would fantasize, dig and stalk him. He was one of my majoristestest crushes and ONE and ONLY internet crush if anything of that sort exists. But it MUST, because I had an internet crush on him. Anyways, so he was (is) exceptionally intelligent , unbeatebly witty and extra ordinarilly tough. AND I was clean bowled. I still remember how I used to spend hours and hours reading all his posts/comments that he would post on different forums and finding out other sites he would participate at. I was lit-ra-lee converted into Sherlock Holmes. And I was virtually suffering from multiple personality disorder. Because I, well, kinda sorta converted into that heroine of trashy urdu novels, who talks to her imaginary hero. And God knows what happened this year. I am myself astonished by my stoicism for him. On second thought, may be I know too. May be that’s why crushes are crushes that they wear out eventually. They just need an excuse to wear out. Sadly, mine got one. Tough luck.
Ah… NOT mine. It’s HIS!

Admiration for Ashton Kutcher:

Do I really need to state the reason why it has gone to never comeback? Just one thing Ashton Kutcher, whenever anyone questioned your acting skills, I would always rebut with ferocity and assert: Have you ever seen Ashton Kutcher’s acting when he has to show restraint in any scene? No one can ” restraint -act ” as briliantly as he does. Needless to say I wouldn’t bother now.

And this is for thou…
Man, infidelity thy middle name.
Learn something from your doppelgänger (read: dog)
and have some shame.

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