Marriage is for silly people.

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Marriage is for silly people.

December 25th, 2008

I don’t know whther to be outraged, annoyed, laugh or cry - this is freakin ridiculous.

A recent event came to light- someone was about to get engaged, and a few days before his engagement , he had a slip disc thus being bed-ridden. His Fiance to be was really worried and kept asking him if he had gone to the doctor or not - but because of it being Eid, the guys mom kept insisting the doctors were not available - the poor guy lay in pain for lord knows how many days…

Finally, the poor girl, being really worried, and seeing how no one else was doing anything, pulled some strings and got him an appointment with a top doctor. She told her fiance of this appointment, who started making faces and was reluctant to go… so the chick phoned up her mother-in-law to be, told her she’d found a doctor and managed to just take an appointment over the phone, and that the mother should convince the guy to go, given the amount of pain he was in…

So I see nothing wrong in what this girl did - all she did was take an appointment over the PHONE! and its not like she was hiding it, or sneaking him off to a doctor behind everyones back, she was trying to help her mother-in-law find a solution for her son, whom this girl was clearly fond of.

The mother-in-law threw a shit fit, and said - you can never love my son the way I can! how dare you take an appointment. You think I dont care about him!?

And then she proceeded to postpone the engagment for a few days - and THEN she called it OFF!!!!

Now IM confused!!! If you bring a modern, educated, smart, pretty, caring girl into your household, who seems to GENUINELY CARE about your SON, shouldn’t you be appreciative , instead of taking it as a personal offense, and thinking that your daughter-in-law was trying to upstage YOU?!!! what medieval thinking!!! I mean, the girl was planning to take the mother-in-law ALONG!!! and the worst part is, the boy just stood there and didnt say a WORD in the girls defense!!!!

I swear- this marriage business is so full of insecurity andpetty politics, that…Everytime someone tries to convince me there are good guys out there, I’m extremely skeptical. People expect you to go into your married home and make it your own, and suddenly make one trillion changes to fit in to this new family - how is that POSSIBLE if your EVERY GOOD, or WELL INTENTIONED move is turned into some life-threatening scheme against the woman of the house!

YOu make all the sacrifices, YOU make all the adjustment, and at the end of the day, YOU are the bad one - dude…this marriage business is just for silly people! why would you want to get married if you have second-guess yourself everytime you do something , take a gamble with your life and hope the man u marry doesnt beat you to pulp - why do people want to take risks liek this!!!!! My concern now is for the poor girl who has a “broken-engagement” tag on her, which people see as an unremovable stain, basically meaning to say she is not entitled to happiness, or anyone whos not fat, balding and has three kids!!! GRR!